Relationships are truly hard to understand sometimes. The start is always beautiful and the end keeps you wondering how your relationships ever worked at all.
With short term affairs you move on and find the next one. But sometimes when real love develops the moving on can be pretty difficult. If you still have feelings for your ex and keep wondering whether your ex may still love you as well, here are the signs to look for.
(1) Text messages and phone calls
People who are still in love tend to cling on to their ex partners, and sometimes this shows itself in the form of trying to maintain a friendship. It doesn’t mean that if your ex is friendly with you he/she definitely has feelings for you. But if you’re getting text messages like “good night” or phone calls just to check how you’re doing regularly then this could indicate that your ex is thinking about you often.
(2) Your ex is still single
Generally speaking, when people have moved on from relationships totally, they look for new ones. But in
the event that love is still lingering then they may opt to take time to themselves instead or to have only casual flings. Thus, unwillingness to recommit to someone new is certainly a thing to watch out for.
(3) If you still share an intimate relationship
It’s actually evident… Everybody likes sex, but people who have really moved on from a relationship are probably more likely to fulfill their needs elsewhere. If your ex keeps coming back to you after the break up then chances are that the break up needs to be reevaluated.
(4) If your ex is trying to hurt you..
It’s a bit ironic, but if your ex is saying things with the intention of hurting you then he or she almost certainly still has some feelings for you. Arguing is pretty much the number one cause of relationships breaking down, so arguing once a relationship has reached its end just doesn’t make any sense. If your ex is behaving in such a way maybe you should consider cutting off such relationships. But probably it means that there are feelings present on both sides.
(5) Your ex still visits the same hangouts
If your ex often appears at the places that you like, and keeps “randomly” bumping into you, then this could also be a sign of lingering feelings. Sometimes it is hard to determine if you and your ex shared a circle of friends to begin with, but just look for behaviors that may indicate that your ex is looking for the opportunity to meet you.
(6) If your ex is trying to attract you Your ex is trying to impress you: for example, a better job (when money was an issue in your relationships), changes in looks (in order to catch the eyes of their ex), etc. Such behavior could be a sign, too.
(7) Mutual friends say so
Talk to mutual friends. Gossip doesn’t stop after high school, so get into the thick of it and see what other people have to say; you might hear exactly what you want to hear.
(8) Social networking websites point towards this
Social networks is one of the key tools nowadays to make others jealous. If you find that your ex has suddenly added new attractive friends then there may be a reason for this beyond simple extroversion. This is particularly true if you notice flirty wall comments floating back and forth between your ex and some new individual. If your ex seems to be out to make you jealous then it means that strong feelings remained.
(9) Your ex is there for you..
If you are undergoing problems in life and your ex is there for you to support you, it may be a sign. Your ex being there for you doesn’t necessarily mean that the relationship has hope of being revived, but…
(10) If your ex is trying to see you often
Lastly, if your ex is still asking you to hang out or still making efforts to see you regularly then there could be hope for your relationship to start anew. After the relationships are over people stop “dating”, but if your ex is treating you the same way as before, then it’s likely that the feelings haven’t changed that much.
However, remember: it’s important that you don’t allow yourself to be taken advantage of or strung along. There are those out there who can’t let go of the past but still want nothing to do with it. Always recognize that the relationship may not have the capability to begin anew, but there are some situations where it certainly does.